Each of us who knows what it is like living with PTSD finds our own path through it. As we are individuals in every other area of life, we are also individual in the way we respond to having PTSD; how symptoms affect us, how we cope, and how we view the experience.
I have a good friend who has PTSD from his time in the military. His sister has it from being abused as a child. My friend thought she should be on the same page he was because they both have the same disorder. He was frustrated that her coping styles were often maladaptive and weren’t the same as the ones he used. We had quite a discussion on how two people can have the same problem, yet experience it in totally different ways and cope with it in different ways.
For example, her coping mechanisms developed when she was a child, while his were learned as an adult. There is a huge difference there! Yes, some of her ways of coping are maladaptive, but she was totally powerless against her abuser and had no one to help her learn to protect herself.
Having PTSD doesn’t mean we are all going to be alike in our symptoms or our strategies for coping. We will all find our way through as best we can and in light of who we are and what we have to work with. Fortunately, as we grow, we can all learn new ways to cope and manage our symptoms.