It is difficult to keep your relationship healthy when you live with PTSD. We too often strike out against the ones we care for the most because they still want to do the things we no longer want to participate in. Sometimes we need to stop and assess where we stand and look at how we are treating our loved ones.
Although it is common for those of us with PTSD to want to isolate ourselves from others, it is also not unheard of for us to become angry with our spouse or significant other because she or he wants to go out with friends even when we don’t. Is it fair to expect your family to stay home because you don’t want to interact with others?
It’s not hard to take those we love for granted. We do this when we refuse to listen to their viewpoint or let them finish their sentences, or when we just talk over them as they try to express themselves.
We like to avoid family get-togethers, forgetting that they often want to spend time with each other. We may try to control everything financially as part of our need to control what’s happening in our lives. We may even try to prevent our loved ones from doing things that allow them to better themselves.
Hopefully, none of us wants to bully those we love. Sometimes we just forget that we are the ones dealing with PTSD, not our loved ones. We have to remember, PTSD is our diagnosis. If we don’t, we stand to lose the very relationship we depend upon most. Sometimes we just need to remember that PTSD is our demon to live with and we don’t need to take it out on those we care about.